What's the rush?

I have noticed that there seems to be a quickly growing trend of people that lose patience quite easier and are in such a rush. A rush to work, a rush to school, a rush to the movies, a rush in relationships, and rushing just overall in life.

I think that it is easy to lose focus and not stop to slow down and smell the roses. Although we are all busy, it is only takes a few minutes to slow down and enjoy your surroundings.

I have several personal challenges health-wise that keep me home bound as you may or may not know already from viewing my other blogs. I have been forced to slow down whether I wanted to or not, as I had no choice but to slow down. I am a multitasking type of person and I still use this tool. However, I have learned that I need to do one thing at a time, and I have noticed that I manage to get more done, have little or no errors in my work, and I am able to obtain more work.

I have noticed that I have been seeing such a rush in the dating scene, and seeing that so many do not take the time to savor the specialness of a long term relationship. Enjoying each other's company through conversation and genuine interest. When things are rushed it makes everything more difficult and if each person slowed down then there would be a better change for the relationship to grow. This can be applied to almost any relationship.

I have managed to do some soul searching over the last few years and I have noticed that I have grown so much in my life. I tap into my common sense on a 24/7 basis and have noticed that life has been so much better. I can recognize time-wasters and easily move on to something better.

Some pointers in trying to live life to the fullest:

1. Slow down! Take a few minutes to an hour out of the day to just relax, just be. You will find that you will be more at ease, and regain focus.

2. Find a hobby. Search for a hobby that you enjoy doing and brings you joy. I have always loved to write and it has helped me to get all of my emotions on paper, cope with challenging issues, and feel free after expressing myself.

3. Spend time with a friend or family member. Relationships with others are important as they provide a social interaction. I do have a hard time with meeting others in person due to the challenges I have however I have been going out to workout several times a week so this allows me to be social with others quite easily.

4. Take a technology time off! What this means is taking time off from the computer, from your cell phone, or television. This will help you to unplug and do something else that is relaxing such going for a walk or reading a book.

Craigslist's Missed Connections = Possible Stalkers?

I have been visiting Craigslist in looking for freelance writing gigs and through browsing I came across a section on Craigslist called Missed Connections. The section for men that have spotted women is much longer than the section of women searching for men, now isn't that a surprise?

Anyway a lot of them made me laugh and some of them were quite creepy to me as it is seems like some of the guys are watching the same woman over and over, talking about what she wore, and what she said to him or not say to him. Some were even specific as to what the person was doing at the time. I can't help but wonder why they did not take the chance to talk to the person at least.

Here some samples:

"You had a unique Louis Bag.
Great smile.
Amazing body.
Mail in your hand after you were at the teller.
If I didn't get that look back while you were
on the way out, I wouldn't be writing right now..."




"Asian woman with the magic eyes...... - m4w - 35

You saw me, I saw you. We stared into each others eyes from across the street. We did not look away and kept the gaze until we passed. Then we both looked back and you waved. How did you know I longed to stop in the middle of the street and kiss you until the cars blared on their horn? I know you knew. I have never been with an Asian woman, and obviously you thought i was as handsome as I thought you were beautiful. One night with me is all I ask. One night of blissful, secret, romantic passion. Can it be? could you find me?"



"I was doing some work on your block this morning and you walked past me while I was on my cell. I was toatally blown away by how beautiful you are. You came out of your house and moved your car. I wanted so much to say "Good Morning" but decided against it. Now I wish I had. I doubt you'll see this but if you do, tell me what kind of car you moved, color and model."

"Retreat on Sat 5/3 - Cute girl called Moon? - m4w - 23
Hi we were talking and dancing for a bit that night at this ghetto lounge Retreat, and I was going to get you drinks but then the bartender took too long, and somehow you left with your friends.

You had a twin sister who went to the same school as me.

Can't get you out of my mind! Hope you read this!"



Need I say more?!




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How to Make a Married Man Commit to You

I recently read an interesting article that caught my immediately and I thought to myself, what is the benefit of dating a married a man, let alone trying to get him to commit to you.

The common sense in me is dying to come out and here I am.

How is someone who is already in a committed relationship will be able to commit to someone else? He cannot have two commitments as one will fall apart eventually. One is bound by law, and the other is bound by emotions.

I do have to ask is why would someone do something like this and be with someone who is already taken? Do they not have enough confidence in themselves that they are able to attract someone who is perfect for them, meets what they are looking for and is single?

The common words that I hear from friends of mine who took a change in dating a married man, who says that they will leave their spouses for the person that they are having an affair with. That rarely ever happens, and if they do, then they are bound to pretty much cheat on you with someone else. In many ways I would say it is Karma!

If there are children involved then that is even worse and those children will be hurt from the affair. I believe that the best thing to do if you are having an affair with a married man is to:

1. End the relationship.
The relationship is not going to progress into anything great. Putting your life on hold while available honest men pass you by, that would be able to provide all that you are needing.

So it is best to cut your losses now. It will save your heart from further damage. Consider the people that you are hurting in the process, such as his wife, his children (if any), and for you if you have any children. They are the innocent bystanders of this traumatic experience.

2. Find out how you feel about yourself and what made you choose this person?
This is important as the question is what is it about this person attracted you to them. Do you really love yourself? Finding out who you are and learning about yourself is key in order for you to grow.

3. Seek counseling to help you cope with this loss, and learn more in how to prevent this from happening again. Gain a better understanding what and how love should be. Love should not include lies, but of honesty.

I see these extra-maritial affairs as a slippery slope all the way downhill and to never to be able to climb back up again. If a person is in this type of affair, remember the man is controlling everything and basically you are giving up your life over to them. When you will meet, when you will do things together, cancelling your plans just to meet with them when they have time. It is not worth it. Get your self-esteem back and learn to stand on your own.