The Nice Guy /Girl Theory By Commonsense4Ever

Nice Guy/Girl Theory by Commonsense4Ever

There is this theory in the dating world about "nice guys." Guys claim that they are a nice guy and then women say that they want a nice guy. However, that has never been truly all the way defined as to what is a nice guy for each individual.

A nice guy has been so far defined as having the qualities of:

Being kind, treating everyone with respect, does not always voice their opinions as they want to please their partner and feels that this is respecting their partner through doing this. They are the ones that will buy flowers and everything for their woman as they want to be please her all of the time. They listen to everything that their woman tells them, and portray themselves as a good listener. They allow the person to control them in so many ways.

Some of those are great qualities and I can also see that some of these other qualities there is not a lot of self-love and care for themselves.

Now the nice guys have been defined as doormats, someone to walk all over as they do not care about themselves but only care about the person that they are in a relationship with.

So many times I see men that get bitter when a woman they were with dumps them for a guy that is named as a "bad boy". The guy that does not care about their feelings, treats them terrible, and many times the woman has low self-esteem, and does not respect themselves.

I think that with the so called nice guys they like to rescue a woman and try to show her what she has been missing and treat her kindly. However, there are many women are out there have not come across a man that has treated them well and when they come across a nice guy they are not sure if he is really being nice, nor how to handle that type of character.

I do not see anything wrong with being a nice person. I am a nice person myself however I do have my boundaries and if someone crosses my boundaries I do speak up and let them know that is not acceptable to me and to not do that again. If a person continually crosses my boundaries then I either do not continue to communicate with them any further or I limit the contact that I have with that person.

That is the difference between the nice guy or girl and someone who has self-esteem, confidence, and believes in themselves.

There seems to be a misunderstanding that those that are nice are easy to take advantage of and what I do want to say is that do not allow others to do that sort of thing. Stand up for yourself!

There is nothing with being nice and courteous to others but go to be able to love yourself. If you love yourself, then you need to stand up and be strong.